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Sounds to me like Auntie has dementia also! Worse case scenario change your monthers phone number and don't give it to Auntie. Mom may call Auntie but only if she can remember her phone number. I would also stop all communication with Auntie. You have to do what's best for Mom, not for Auntie.
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Thanks everyone for all your feedback! I got a lot of great information that I will definitely use moving forward.

I think its important that my Mother see a Doctor. Dementia is a group of symptoms. The actual ailment could be one of 89 different illnesses (I've done some research). Vascular, Lewy Body, Severe Anxiety or Depression, Parkinson's, Alcohol induced dementia, Alzheimers.... or she could just have extremely low B12 levels. So I think its important to get a proper and thorough diagnosis. 
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So, did her PCP run blood tests for vitamin deficiencies? Order an MRI or CAT scan? Do a screen for depression?

Or is she sending her directly to a neurologist?
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Don't tell Auntie about appointment. I would not tell Mom if I thought she would tell AUNTIE. If she has Dementia, time is of the essence. The gamble is with the rest of Mom's life. Get the diagnosis and then and only then can you go forward.
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Another technique would be to engage Aunt as part of the solution.

" Auntie, these are the things were noticing about mom right now. We know she has your confidence and that you have her best interests at heart. We need a good and sensitive way to get her medically looked at. How do you think we should approach this?"
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BarbBrooklyn- Her PCP did make those appointments and my Aunt helped my Mother cancel both of them. So far she hasn't cancelled the appointment made for the Neurology group. Hopefully they will reschedule the ones she cancelled.

I tried to include my Aunt and she got nasty. I'm done with her. I won't communicate with her any longer.
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LoLo, I'm glad that you are feeling resolved and are going forward with your plan! Please let us know how this all works out; we really learn from each other's experiences on this forum!
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This situation happened to my Father with his companion. We found out later that this person had my Father put all his assets in her name while she kept him away from the family. So who is paying her bills now and managing her affairs? Does this person have a hidden agenda? Sorry to be blunt but people do prey on the demented elderly. It might be best to find out who is the power of attorney and if there isn't one yet to decide who will manage your Mother's health and financial decisions in the future.
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