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I dont think there is such an invention as yet apart from a flat bowl which i think will cause equal mess. Plastic sheets can help cleaning up. I know you said no catheters but does that cover external ones that are like incontinence condoms. My father has enlargen prostate. I bought him herbal tablets to help and they have a bit - your doctor should be able to advise better. I am sure they can assist if the toilet needs are that frequent. Not sure where you are but health service may be able to offer supports like beds with risers to help lift your father up pressing a button. That doesnt answer your question just exploring everything incase anything isnt explored fully. My father uses wide next urine bottles and they have a bend so that they can stand up - so shouldnt be turning over. Your father sounds like he needs a reassessment on his condition. It must be as awful to him as to his carers. There are wipe down waterproof duvet covers and sheets. When my fathers was really bad i had him lay on one and covered with another. It made cleaning up easier. Then we stopped the coffee and now my 92 year old father doesnt even half of the pants we used to use... and doesnt go as frequently. Sugar & Alcohol is another one that plays havoc with our (men and women's) hormones and can make more frequent need to urinate. I'd say speak to the doctor. He should be recommending something for your father. Good luck. You prob tried everything i said - but just incase you overlooked or didnt explore everything my input. (ps. even de-caf coffee had same effect as normal coffee btw - if you think that is a potential trigger cut them all out. We found this change helped my father beyond words.
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Small laundry appliances are sold for use in RV vehicles and the like. These are real washing machines and dryers, just tiny.
Instead of disposable garments, use real cotton terry hand towels.
The soiled item can be rinsed out, or not, and placed in a covered receptacle. Since it seems there will be several dozen per day, several times a day they can be laundered.
Place the washer, dryer nearby, perhaps near a bathroom, or in a closet.. Although the washers are meant to be portable, they can be installed much like a dishwasher.
You can always have a supply of fresh, clean cloths, comfortable for the gentleman and doable for the caregiver.
Ask if the diuretic can be reduced to perhaps every other day.
Well, it’s a possibility anyway
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Geaton777 Jul 17, 2024
If they were paid aids, then maybe... but honestly, this family needs a solution that doesn't increase their workload.
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Dress him in a disposable brief and an anti-strip jumpsuit. Only checked after a BM or on a regular schedule. No one responds to him yelling that he has to "go". Use diversion and redirection to get his mind on other things. Once he understands that the "on demand" potty routine is over, things should improve. If not, maybe he needs meds for his anxiety.

Two unpaid family caregivers orbiting around his all-day, everyday potty routine is senseless, unproductive and unsustainable. This will burn them out.

Why is he on a diuretic? If it's not prescribed by a doctor I would take him off of it. You should talk to his urologist about his prostate issue and sense of urgency, there may be medications to deal with this.
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Also, I wanted to mention, there are medications I see advertised on tv all the time for what is called “ Overactive bladder “ that would stop the need to void so frequently
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funkygrandma59 Jul 17, 2024
Jaeterese, that is if these medications actually work. My late husband tried all the overactive bladder medications and none of them worked for him. His urologist even put Botox in his bladder to try and calm it down with no success.
It's all really just hit or miss.
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As a daughter, I appreciate the answers! Also please remember a home/facility is typically a minimum of $6k a month so saying ‘put him in a home’ is not necessarily realistic or helpful. Currently we are paying $10k/month to keep my Dad at home. It’s a nightmare.
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waytomisery Jul 18, 2024
@ Daughterof85Dad,

Who is “ we” are paying ? Are you spending your own money for Dad’s care ? I hope not , you need your own money . Adult children , if possible should not use their own money .

If your Dad is in the US. Depending on Dad’s financial situation and care needs, he may be eligible for Medicaid to pay for his care in a facility . Have you looked into Medicaid , rather than you going broke ?
Does Dad have a house to sell to pay for his care ?

And suggesting placement in a facility in cases where the caregiver is worn out can be helpful . Many caregivers ( especially elderly spouses ) die before the person they are caring for . Then the care recipient ends up in a facility anyway , and without their deceased ( caregiver ) spouse to be their advocate .

I believe the elderly bedbound man in this thread may not be in the US . I do not know what his financial situation for care is in another country.
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