Follow
Share
This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Find Care & Housing
Ok, then don't take him his car. How are his expenses being paid for at the nursing home? Will he be running out of money soon and need medicaid?
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

No he can't drive while in the nursing home. But he demands I bring him his car and his pills and his money so he can go live in a trailor house he called about with a 39 year old man for $350 a month. We do not know this man and dad did not tell him that he is 77 years old, a smoker, and on all kind of meds. The drs. all say he is not competent to make decisions for his health care. I just need to know if I have to go to court to be able to make him stay where he is and not be out driving around with money in his wallet and no where to go. Plus he is a gambler.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

bossygirl, you can keep him there legally, plus the doctor is not going to let him go for he sounds like he is unsafe to discharge. I don't understand how he can be in a nursing home and still be able to drive. That sounds more like assisted living. Has your dad been evaluated by a doctor for how competent he is?
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

My Dad is currently in a nursing home and needs to be there. He is physically unable to care for himself. He takes 14 different meds. I am his daughter, legal POA and healthcare POA. He is threatening that he wants out of the nursing home or he will kill himself. Can I legally keep him there against his wishes. His doctor will not give him permission to leave either so he is going against drs. wishes. He has no place to live and says not to worry. He even still drives, but is not very careful. Do I need a conservatorship or what to override his wishes for leaving care center?
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

If I was given POA of someone who has had a stroke and put into assisted living and now does not have the funds to pay for his home, medical expenses. He does have Medicare so they pay most of the medical bills. Can I just send a letter to those he owes money to and let them know the situation and not pay anything
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

The creditors want some validation that you have durable POA. Sending them a copy confirms that but does not make you responsible to pay your mother's bills from your own money. You might need to find a valid debt agency to help you deal with these creditors. Don't let them bully you into thinking you have to personally pay them out of your own pocket.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

My mum is in a nursing home, I am POA and her creditors are harrassing me about her bills,. She gets Medicare, all of it goes to the nursing home,with nothing left over to pay any of her creditors. The creditors wants me to fax a copy of the POA. If I were to do that ,will they hold me responsible for paying her bills.?
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

My sister has POA for all my dads affairs, can she stop me from asking doctors and nurses what is going on with my dad?
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

Are both your and your mom's names on the car insurance policy? Is your mother competent to handle her business in a business like manner and has a doctor evaluated her competency? You and your mother both own the car and are responsible for how it gets used or misused.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

My mother made me her POA and also put me as co-owner on her car and home. She lets unlicensed people drive her car. Am I personally responsible for damages caused by those unlicensed drivers?
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

Lilliput, my mother created a will and named me her sole beneficiary.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

Crowe: from my limited experience with these matters and from reading about other forum member's experiences, I believe that all the assets, where you are named "co-owner" will revert to you upon her passing.
Did she also create a will or living trust? If a will or trust states otherwise, I am not sure which would take precedence...this would be a good time to contact an impartial attorney to evaluate her documents. (I am hoping one of our experts chimes in on this issue.)
The POA is a document that allows you to help your Mom carry out her wishes if she should become incpacitated in any way. In essence, all her income, assets, and properties are hers to do with as she pleases until her passing.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

Lilliput, my mother made me co-owner of her personal checking, money market and CD's with right of survivorship before she made me durable POA. What are my responsibilities there? Once she got in the nursing home, she made me joint owner with right of survivorship of her personal securities which before had been in her name only?
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

The answer above is correct. You are managing their affairs, and have a duty to be financially responsible on their behalf, etc. but not pay expenses out of your own funds or take on liability personally for anything of theirs (if, as stated above, you don't get into joint ownership or anything). Also, be careful of signing things on their behalf (i.e. a nursing home, assisted living contract, contract for services, etc.)-you need to sign as their POA not as yourself (i.e. "John Smith as POA for Loretta Smith"), in which case you could be held personally responsible.

Also, most POAs are effective immediately (not just based on incapacity, unlike medical POAs/healthcare surrogates which usually are only effective then)...though most people don't use them until the person has difficulties managing or is unable. The language also must be "durable", meaning that the POA survives incapacity (other POAs are sometimes used for limited cases, i.e. selling property). All of this brings up the importance of getting good legal advice...forms can be ok for some things, but a good estate planning/elder lawyer can answer all these ?s, customize documents, keep you up to date on any law changes, etc.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

If you have their POA only, no, you would not be responsible for any of their assets, investments, accounts, etc. The exception is if you are also named as a co-owner on accounts such as checking accounts or if you are also on credit card accounts.
The POA only gives you the ability to make financial decisions for someone who has become incapacitated.
Helpful Answer (7)
Report

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Ask a Question
Subscribe to
Our Newsletter