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My mom has an appointment soon for cognitive testing. I am sure she has some form of dementia and am thinking it may be Alzheimer's. I am not sure whether to tell Mama if she does have it. Or should we let her move forward in her life without her knowing? If we don't tell her, how would we deal with any medication that may be prescribed (she is VERY aware of her medication and what she takes it for...won't be easily fooled). I foresee her slipping into depression if she is told her diagnosis, since we have not even seen the doctor yet and she already talks about how her life won't be worth much any more. Your advice would be appreciated!!!

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I agree with Joann. This is the doctor's job.

My mothers neurologist sat her down and told her that her cognitive skills were diminished as the result of a stroke and that there was no way to tell if her condition would progress. But, he said, he could tell her the very best things to do. To stay engaged in activities, not to be socially isolated and to live somewhere where there were always people around if she needed help.

She was able to hold on to the recommendations and not dwell on the diagnosis.
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KellyBWilson Mar 2019
Thank you for your advice. I appreciate you taking the time to offer your opinion.
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You don't tell her. The doctor should tell her. Moms neurologist sat down in front of her and looked her in the eye and told her. Told her not to be afraid if she saw things others didn't and other things. Your Mom may tend to believe the doctor before you. If she is in the early stages, she needs to be able to get her life together. POAs if not already in place. Having a will drawn or updated. If there are items she wants someone to have. Getting important papers together and telling you where everything is. Cleaning out. Maybe even entering an AL so as her Dementia progresses she is in a familiar place.
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KellyBWilson Mar 2019
Thanks JoAnn. Thankfully I have had Mama's POAs and will done so that is not an issue. I just am concerned about Mama's reaction to having the diagnosis I feel is coming. I wish I could spare her from knowing and she could live blissfully unaware. Thank you for reaching out.
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