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My brother-in-law lives with us. He is 61 and on SSD due to A-fib, he is alone all day (my husband and myself work).  He does not drive

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annstuart: Check out the website "The Best of Northampton." There is a wealth of information there.
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My first thought was "why"? Why is your BIL choose alone all day? Is his A-fib so severe that he is not able to function? Was his driver's license taken away from him or did he not have one? I know people much older than 61 who have A-fib and most of them are leading fairly active lives, so I'm guessing that he is severely ill. Still, sitting at home alone all day is not good. In addition to checking for Senior Centers, check local hospitals and churches for classes, programs, and activities. Even if he can only play cards or have a meal, it will get him out of the house. Does he provide for his own care such as doing his own laundry, making his bed, or helping to prepare meals? He needs emotional, physical, and intellectual stimulation. Is he able to walk around the block? Can he do simple yard work - trimming back dead flowers for example would get him sunshine and he would be contributing to the work of the household. Being disabled from working should not mean that he sits all day. What does his PCP say in terms of his activity level?
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Office of the aging is a good start. Check with your local Disabilities Dept. SSD people can work up to a certain point. They maybe able to find him something to keep him busy. There are daycares. See if there is onee that have people in his age group. Like it was said, some AL allow people to come for activities. Some places can provide transportation. If not, check to see if there is a senior bus that will pick up and drop off. They also will take him shopping. Some Daycares offer this too.
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I'm in California and just about every community has senior programs. You can search by typing "seniors" and the city and things should show up. I was looking for someplace that would take my husband while I worked and the senior support places had limited hours. I did find a great place called Daycation for Seniors. They had activities, music, serve meals etc. it's like daycare for when your children are small. I believe they are in many areas. Look on the Internet for information. They have made it possible to keep my husband home longer, they don't cost as much as having home health.
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I have two ideas. First, check to see if there is a federal Program for All-inclusive Care for the Elderly (PACE) in your area. Your area agency on aging would be able to tell you. This provides nursing home level services in the home setting and includes transportation (up to five days/week) to their center for day care services. This may be more than you are interested in, but at least something to keep in mind for the future. PACE also has an a la carte fee schedule for day services. Another possibility is to see if there is a Village to Village Network "Village" in your area. Go to vtvnetwork.org to check your location. These villages provide transportation and social events. May God bless.
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Without knowing where you live it is difficult to get specific about day programs.
If you have a Senior Service in your area contact them. Check with your local Park District. You could contact the village hall or city hall where you live to determine if they are aware of any. Catholic Charities may also be of help in locating day programs. Some may provide transportation some may not. And if you work can your B-I-L get ready and get onto a bus if they were to provide transportation? And if they drop off before you get home is he able to be by himself? (When my husband was in a day program he was picked up between 7:30 and 8:30 and returned home between 3:30 and 4:30.
I did place him in a day program at a local Assisted Living facility that had a memory program and I could drop him off at 9 and pick him up at 5.
You could also do that, check local Assisted Living facilities in your area and ask if they have an Adult Day program. Some do as it is a good way to get a long term resident.
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I would check with the Northampton Counsel on Aging. The town's website say they have information for all kinds of services. They might have info on transportation resources too.
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