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I didn't get your name, so I shall call you "dear Dear". Dear, I wish I had your email because I understand what's happening to you, and we could talk. Welcome, because everyone here gets it, takea it, and will side with you. It is a great group. I wish you would tell us. Please, how you happen to be saddled with MIL, what you've done, ( about her, and so forth ), and what her trouble seems to be?

Otherwise, I was moved by something the Pope said when hevisited the US : "If you believe, then pray for me. And if you do not, then please wish me well."
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What is moms physical and mental status, does she have dementia or is she just angry about her situation. A little more back story would be helpful. Great people and advice here but we need some info to go on. Hope to hear from you again.
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Yes, we would love to help. Such behaviors can be so frustrating and bring up so many emotions for you. You will get support in this forum from a wide variety of people with different experiences and beliefs so you will fid hjust what you need amongst the responses. Share with us a bit more so that we can.
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See the posts about the dementia clients who get aggressive and violent and count your blessings. Quiet works. No emotion is better than some of the 140 emotions we are capable of..Caregiving is a thankless, constant job. Get some help and appreciation from your spouse and if needed pay for respite care.Take care of yourself.
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My mom acts the same way. I know she's depressed and have argued with the skilled nursing place she is at that she is depressed. They say no she's too passive. What the heck does that mean. Now they are saying they are releasing her soon and I need to find a skilled nursing place to put her in due to her medical issues. Muscles in esphophes (ms) and stomach. So she can't eat or drink anything. She is hooked up to a j tube in her small intestine. Sounds to me she's depressed.....jmo
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Met to say her muscles aren't working. She's in askilled nursing place but they don't have any long term beds...I am unable to care for her and fell really guilty.
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muttilou I think she is passive because she is depressed, the two go hand in hand sometime. I am sorry about your mom, I hope you find someplace for her.
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izzmir. What does your husband say about it? She is his mother. I don't know what's wrong with her, so I can't say why she won't talk. Many reasons. If you knew why you could help her. Is she mean?
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I'm not trying to be a Debby-downer, but maybe you should be a little relieved she's not demanding, yelling, screaming, falling down all the time...at least not yet, depending on her health status/conditions. Relief caregivers love my mother because they say she's "very easy" to care for compared to other clients. You should definitely get your MIL checked out by a healthcare provider just to rule out depression or early stages of some other illness. As long as her medical needs are being met and she's in a safe environment, this, I feel is the priority. The social needs are up to her, so you may just need to wait it out and see if she'll come around. Was she always behaving this way or it's just been a slow steady decline in talk and in emotion in the last four years? You'll definitely want to mention this to her doctor. In the meantime, you shouldn't feel guilty to enjoy a little peace - before all Hell breaks loose because it can get ugly - quick. There's only so much you/we can do for our loved ones. You just have to accept in your heart that you're doing all you can for her.
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Muittlou, do not feel guilty, it will eat u up. We recently put my mom in adult foster care and she is happy and my sister and i feel so much better. We had her living with me 9 yrs and sis 5 so it was time for a change. She likes where she is. I hope the best for you.
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